Posts Tagged ‘DFTBA’


WTF Love?



/!\ Warning, Incoming Rant /!\


WTF… Love?  Like, why do you have to be so complicated?  I like that person over there because I think they have a cute butt and I would like to touch their butt but I can’t because they are part of a certain so called “social” class that I am not part of.  Also I kind of once kissed their friend when we were in elementary school… so that makes it… well weird… and their dad… teaches at my school… and is my teacher… UGH… why does this have to be so complicated??!?!?

Older friend trying to help (OFTTH): But, um… Peeta that changes once you get out of High School?

Does it?  Does it, older friend with good intentions who I really just want to punch right now for giving advice that you think is helpful but its not, DOES IT REALLY?  Cause, cause the way I see it is that it only gets worse when you are an adult.  Cause the social class thing doesn’t go away. Nope, NO, not. even. close. IT GETS WORSE!! There is still that person that you are not allowed to talk to.  Maybe its because you are a service worker and they came into your restaurant or retail store or something in a three piece suit.   I can’t talk to them, cause I have an apron on or a vest with name on it or some shit.  It’ DUMB!  And then, THEN, if I do, for some reason have the guts to talk to them… THEY think the only reason I want to chat them up is because I want their money or some shit like that.  Maybe I don’t, huh?  Did you ever think that I just think you are good looking and maybe I just want to touch your butt??  DID YOU EVER THINK THAT I AM A PERSON TOO?!?!?  Just because we are not part of the exact same social class, fuck!  Gah, and it is not really their fault it is just society being a jerk.  Like, fuck society.  Ugh!  It is just stupid!  There is NO reason I cannot tell somebody they have a great butt and have them act like I have some fucking disease or something… Like, just because I dared to talk to them when we do not fit some stupid societal ideal of the same social class, FUCK, I. just. get. so. annoyed…

Also, yes, I know that “butt touching” is not the greatest analogy but you get my point right?

OFTTH: Oh, Peeta is it really that bad?

Look, BRAD… I know you mean well but would you kindly SHUT THE FUCK UP?  Not everybody is a good looking, popular person with a good job… okay.  I know that you don’t see me like this because we grew up together but geezus Brad… I. am. not. YOU.  I can’t just walk up to some person and have them think I am pretty okay.  I want to say it again… not EVERYBODY can.  And Brad, my friend, I get it… you are a cute little thing, and you do not have confidence issues.  But you are in the minority BRAD, not me… so FUCK YOU!  Like, I don’t hate you but FUCK! YOU!  You have it easy!  GAH!…

OFFTH:  Sorry

Look, Brad… I know you mean well but you don’t get it.  And I don’t hate you for it, but FUCK man.  Gah… Now I feel bad fictitious Brad.  I am sorry too… but I just want to be able to talk to somebody with out stupid fucking societal rules. And I am not talking about being creepy here… but why can’t I like who I like… FUCK.  I just want to be able to be into who ever I want to be with out somebody somewhere looking at me because I do not fit their idea of… well what the fuck ever… UGH.

/rant off












Good Morning World!


So 2014… that happened.

I miss being uninformed.  When I was uninformed my life better.  I was happier and could do things in my life without feeling guilty.  But alas, I am not uninformed.  This is my own doing and while I miss those days because of their ease I don’t want to go back to them.  Why?  That is a hard one to explain; maybe it is best just to say that anything worth doing is hard.

That being said I have a bit of a problem.  As mentioned many times I am a generic white cis gendered male. I do not have the experiences of growing up in any type of minority really.  Sure, I have red hair (very dark though so it looks more brown as I age) and freckles, I wear classes, have a funky gap in my front teeth, and somewhat short; so I have been made fun of and bullied but that does not mean I understand what it means to be systemically repressed.  So if anybody out there wants a platform to post on that is already 1000+ strong then feel free to send me your articles and they will get posted unedited.  If or until that happens I am going to continue to frame my discussions the way I always have.  I will encourage open dialog and I will source any article or video used for a piece in any way when appropriate.

In the past I have tried to be focus on good news.  Now I want to be focused on things that need to be looked at out bring about good news.  That does not mean DFTBAN is suddenly a social justice blog, I actually hope to be quite contrary to the typical social justice blog you see.  Going back to my promise,  I will source everything I can, I will ask the tough questions, I will defer to somebody IN the situation whenever possible, I will not post only on emotion but also try to back up facts.

I don’t know how much I will post, only that I will post more.  Here is to 2015 and may it be better than the year before!


Inspiration from a Cell Phone?


Another company has done something brilliant.  I saw THIS in February and thought it was a fluke.  An amazing fluke, but a fluke.  Now this video above.  I have trouble putting words to how amazing it is that Verizon has made this commercial.  Verizon wireless services ~122 million customers in the US as of Q1 2014.** Unless my math is sub par that is >1/3 of the entire US population.

At first the commercial doesn’t appear to be doing anything wrong.  Just a parent talking to their kids and saying things that you would normally say to a kid.  I thought it was going to be a commercial about how you want to keep track of your children.  Then they drop their little fact nugget on you around the 45 second mark and the whole thing changes.

I have a daughter.  I want her to know she can be absolutely anything she wants to be.  If she wants to be a marketing executive, a secretary, a doctor, a sports announcer, a fashion designer, a trash collector, a CEO, a stay at home mom, a call center manager, a call center employee, a stripper, a single store owner, a farmer, or anything else and I will support her 100%.  Even though I know this I also know I am guilty sometimes of telling her to not get dirty, or wanting to protect her.  I try everyday and would like to thank Verizon for a reminder.

Even if Verizon does some other shady things this is one thing they got right.


PSA: Punch a Dude


Here is the thing.  It is frustrating when a woman starts to walk faster just because I happened to come out of my house as she was walking by.  It drives me crazy!  Thing is that I am not upset with the lady at all when this happens.  I am pissed of at the way society has treated women for the last fuckityousand years.

So yeah, get pissed when a women starts walking faster just because you happen to be behind her.  But please for the love of all, do not get mad at her, instead go punch a dude who thinks its appropriate to oogle a woman and then get pissed when she doesn’t go home with him.


Help Lines


In light of recent events around the world and not being qualified to talk about it I thought I would leave contact information for people who are.  I pulled this link of information from THIS vlogbrothers video.  Hank is not an expert but the video has good resources and I wanted to credit him.


Lets talk about GoldieBlox


I have two kids whom I love very much.  I purchase my son dolls and I purchase my daughter legos.  Both of these things are non gender normative but its what they like so I get it for them.

I want to take a second to be clear here.  My daughter get dolls and clothes and hair things too; just like I get my son legos and action figures and video games (which are arguably more normal).  I say this so you understand that I try to get my 11 year old son and soon to be 10 year old daughter things that they like; not things the world thinks they “should” have.

Back on track.  I was recently introduced to GoldieBlox which is a toy AND book series designed by an engineer who decided that there needed to be more toys that focus on spacial skills for those of the female persuasion.  While certain companies have thought to slap a pink coat of paint on their toys clearly designed for males; some have even done a bit of a redesign,  it has become clear that very few (if any) spacial skill toys have been designed for young ladies from the ground up.

I am shocked this has not been done before.  Why has it taken us so long for  somebody to spend their hard earned money and degree to make sure it was actually designed for young women.  Sadly my daughter is a bit old for the series (I will probably still ask her if she wants it anyway) but if this had been available five years ago she would have had it.

I know that the general reading audience for DFTBA* is not one likely to have children but for those of us who do or plan to have in the future please take a second to check out GoldieBlox.  Especially if you have a young lady in your life that might be interested in building and engineering.



Inspiration from a cookie


Can we talk about how fucking perfect this song is by OREO of all companies?  I know its a clever way for them to be able to introduce new products but there is so much more to it. Lets break it down line by line.  Please watch the video first though as all credit goes to Kraft and Oreo.

“Wonder if we tried a new thing…”

  • You mean its possible to NOT do things the way you have always done them.  Even when those things are working well for you?  FFS Oreo alone makes Kraft 2 billion dollars a year!  And here they are going to try out some new flavors.  Wonder what would happen if that philosophy was applied to peoples lives.

“… looked inside see what we can bring…”

  • Wait, you mean we can bring about these changes from inside?  We don’t have to wait for a focus group or a boss or a teacher or a parent or a preacher or anybody else to tell us that it might be time for a change?  We really can do it on our own??

“… forget who your supposed to be…”

  • You mean I don’t have to do things like I have been told ALL the time.  Its okay to think that something needs to change and then enact that change on my own?  Strange.  According to society I am supposed to do things the way they have always been done because they say so.

“… take all your crazy flavors show them off to me…”

  • Are you fucking kidding me Kraft?  You mean to say that different might actually be good? You mean that sometimes adding variety is a good thing?  This company has CLEARLY gone mad

“… if we dare to wonder about what holds us down the fears, the doubts…”

  • Literal tears at this point.  I have always liked the question “What would you do if you knew, absolutely knew, you could not fail?”; and this is, to me, is another way to ask that question by addressing those things that hold us down and getting rid of them so we cannot fail.

“… Could we spark something, watch it grow, be more wonder filled than we know.”

  • Hope.  This is what hope fucking looks like.  The mere possibility that by doing something different than what we have always done and accepting that sometimes change IS, not only good, but the best possible thing.  We just might create a society and culture that is better than the one we were born into.


I never thought I would be so inspired by a damn Oreo commercial but I have been and I am glad I have seen it.  Here Oreo’s; take all my damn money.  I hope to help push your profits to double what they have ever been because if you keep coming out with messages like this… maybe, just maybe, some people will change for the better.  Their entire wonderfilled movment is fucking amazing!  Check it!

And HERE is a playlist of YouTubers making music about Oreo (: